Today’s session with the EMDR lady is a testament to why we are making this therapist change. Growing pains are normal, but ouch they hurt.
Evin went in grumpy and refusing to talk and came out a bit calmer having said quite a lot. He got all but maybe 5 minutes of the session.
Evin did such a good job. He told her most of his big dark reasons for feeling hopeless and as sad as he is. She shared a small bit of her life with him to show she did get his sorrow. He listened as she gave him an idea for how to help alleviate some of his pain and he had no problem telling her he didn’t like the idea (he usually holds on to that for a while and perseverates before saying he isn’t willing to try an idea). He told her he barely knows her. She didn’t try to convince him otherwise. She said she was looking forward to getting to know him if he would allow it.
And then she said something that made it through the entirety of the system- Evin told her he isn’t supposed to tell the secrets according to a certain group inside. She asked if he gets in trouble when he does. He nodded. She said she doesn’t want to hear the secrets from him until he has permission to share them.
Boom.
Mic drop.
That simple statement spread like a wildfire.
And the EMDR lady addressed LT who had written her a very brief letter about boundaries saying she would wait a week for the answer since it was Evin who needed attention today. She made a point of answering LT’s question anyway. Not a discussion, just a simple answer that can be expounded on next week. Small things.
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